By Justice Westmoreland
February 21, 2019
After being in a relationship with an individual for an extended period of time, we tend to forget that our partner is quite a bit different than we are. We have different experiences that have shaped our personalities into who we are; we think in different ways, and we have different expectations from one another. This often leads to five different love languages shared between couples and it can begin to complicate relationships when we believe that our significant other holds the same personal values as we do.
Quality Time
The first love language that an individual may fall under in a relationship is someone who values quality time. This person will enjoy time spent with those around them by bonding more through their interpersonal relationships. For instance, this person would value a picnic at the park rather than an expensive dinner. It is very important to recognize this early on in a relationship so that you are not taking this individual to fancy restaurants when all they really want is to spend time with you.
Acts of Service
The second love language that many individuals fall under is acts of service. These individuals feel most valued in their relationship when their partner partakes in household chores and takes on responsibilities to make their schedule lighter. This person thrives by the idea of “Actions speak louder than words.” An individual who prioritizes acts of service in their relationships would appreciate their partner cooking dinner one night, washing the dishes, and running errands when they are busy.
Words of Affirmation
The third love language that an individual could be categorized under is needing words of affirmation. Many individuals enjoy hearing that they are doing a great job and that those around them are proud of what they have accomplished. While dating an individual who values hearing words of affirmation, it is especially important to recognize their accomplishments and to ensure that they feel appreciated. Since I have recognized that my fiancé appreciates hearing words of affirmation, I am able to say things that allow him to feel proud of his actions in order to ensure that he feels appreciated. It is important to recognize this in your relationship in order to provide these uplifting words to someone who values them.
Receiving Gifts
The fourth love language that is common among individuals in relationships is receiving gifts. This love language is vital to recognize since this person does not feel loved and valued unless you buy gifts for them. These presents do not particularly have to be expensive or luxurious, but they do have to be meaningful. These individuals feel appreciated when you put thought into buying something that is personable to them. This shows them that you have been attentive to their wants and needs.
Physical Touch
The fifth and final love language that characterizes many individuals is physical touch. Someone who falls under this category values intimacy with their significant other and does not feel fully loved without it. When in a relationship with someone who values physical touch, it is important to utilize holding hands, kissing, hugging, and closeness to your partner. This allows the individual to feel completely loved and appreciated by their partner.
While it is important to understand which love language your significant other falls under, it is also vital to utilize all of the love languages in some way for your relationship to thrive. After fully understanding the love languages, we can begin to cultivate relationships that reflect ourselves and our partner in a unique way.
The opinions expressed are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Infuse Student Media or Southwest Baptist University.
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