Justice Westmoreland
25 April 2019
When we are strongly invested in a relationship, we can sometimes become very emotional in certain situations. This can lead to arguments that could be prevented if both individuals would slow down and take a minute to work through things. Hopefully, this article will teach you how to work through emotional situations with your partner in a more effective way.
Take a Moment to Breathe
When arguments get heated, our emotions take over and it is hard for us to express ourselves clearly. For this reason, it is essential that we step away from the situation and assess our feelings once we calm down. However, this does not mean to step away from the situation without ever coming back to it. This will only make the situation worse because it will never be resolved.
Be Understanding
We are all human, and we all make mistakes. It is extremely important that you are understanding of your partner’s feelings and perspectives. As previously stated, a relationship is a partnership, and you have to work together to form a resolution. The last thing you want to do is undermine your partner and make them feel like their feelings do not matter.
Communicate Effectively
I am sure that we have all heard that communication is essential in relationships, but how many of us always utilize it when fixing our problems? All arguments stem from an underlying issue that needs to be dealt with. This is why talking about the problem is so important because it allows us to uncover the problem and solve it together.
Work Through it Together
Sometimes when we get into arguments with our partner, we forget that we are not against each other. Being in a relationship means that you are a team and that requires working together to get through the hard times. In order to work together, you must be willing to look at the situation through your partner’s perspective, as well as your own, to come to a resolution.
Create a Solution
Since your relationship is a partnership, it is immensely important that you come up with a solution together. This is when you ask yourself, “What can we do to fix this problem?” At this point, you should have already discussed where the problem stems from, how it makes the both of you feel, and how the two of you can fix the problem. Teagan and I have found a particular method that we find efficient and extremely helpful. When we are faced with a problem, we make a list of potential solutions and rank them from our most prefered solution to our least prefered solution. We then compare our rankings and the solution that matches first is the one we go with. This ensures that we are taking both of our perspectives into account and that the both of us feel satisfied with the solution.
We all know that arguments are inevitable in a relationship, especially when both you and your partner are emotionally invested in one another. The most important thing we can do in these moments is realize that these fights will not last forever and both of you can get through it if you work together.
The opinions expressed are solely those of the author and do not necessarily reflect those of Infuse Student Media or Southwest Baptist University.
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